Anger Management
What does Anger Management mean?
Our anger management programmes are designed for those people who recognise that they have difficulty in espressing their own anger and it is having an impact on those around them Paticipating in one of our courses will allow you recognise the source of your anger. Once you understand where your anger comes from, you will be more able to manage it When expressed in a healthy way, anger is a healthy emotion. neither passive aggressive nor agggressive but simply assertive.
Who is it for?
Anyone can have difficulty managing anger: employees, entrepreneurs, freelancers, managers, teachers, consultants, parents, husbands, wives. Whether you find yourself in a quarrel despite your best efforts or you lose your temper as a result of some injustice or other, as with everything there is a scale of the impact of anger. Anger can become unhealthy. Until you take the time to examine it it tends to worsen rather than improve.
The challenge in any situation is to manage anger by being assertive and clear about how we are feeling and what we need in that moment. Anyone can learn anger management skills, it just takes practice, and support from others.
Our anger management courses combine education and psychology. This psycho-educational approach is the key ingredient to unblock and transform unhealthy anger.
Skills, tools and a greater understanding of one’s feelings are the key so that, in that moment where the anger can take over, the strategies learned are activated to limit the intensity of the feeling and so not to become a slave to the anger in the moment. Learning the skill of Anger Management can truly change one’s life.
How can an Anger Management programme help?
Following an anger management program will help you recognise the classic symptoms well before they are triggered, and then offer you solutions and strategies to be able to express your feelings and emotional needs in a healthy way. This will help you feel calm and in control instead of being a slave to yor feelings.
Below is a list of typical signs of a problematic approach to anger. If you recognise yourself in some or all, you may benefit from learning anger management skills
- You often find yourself holding back your anger to avoid conflict.
- You find yorself responding badly to people for unimportant reasons and you don't understand why.
- You notice that you often over think, brood and focus on past events.
- You feel constantly irritated, you quick to rise to anger and you tend to be defensive.
- You start arguments and conflicts that then increase your frustration levels.
- You are physically threatening and/or verbally abusive towards your family members and others - this is a key sign.
- You too are afraid of your outbursts to others, and it causes you anxiety and, perhaps, depression.
- If you recognise yourself in these signs, or just some of them, you may be wondering ...
What can I do to manage my anger?
You can do a search on your own.
Knowing how to express anger in a healthy way (propulsive rather than destructive anger) involves learning to express your feelings appropriately. Learning new habits is also essential when it comes to anger management. There are a large number of books, websites, podcasts, and videos on YouTube that offer information and advice on anger management. Many are only in English, but more and more titles are translated into Italian. Sadly though, self-study will only get you to a certain point, following an anger management program will give you that extra stimulus so many people need to make a real change.
What can you expect from anger management coaching?
You can follow an individual anger management or coaching program
Anger management programs are usually held in groups. Individual anger management coaching is normally provided to the individual, although it is also open to couples or families. The location, length and number of sessions may vary, depending on the program or specific needs. There is no fixed formula; many courses are adaptable and can last from a few sessions to several months.
Starting
As you begin to work on your anger issues, it is vital that you explore and identify the sources of your anger. It is also important to note how you are feeling and what is physically happening to you, as these are the first indicators that your anger has been triggered. Of course, the goal is to have strategies in place to manage the triggers and recognise the first warning signs of anger. This is the key to management
Signals of stress and anxiety
Stress fuels anger, so managing stress more effectively helps you manage anger more productively. Examples of major stressors could be finances, health, time management, family, colleagues, travel and traffic, etc.
Emotional signals
Often we are dealing with an accumulation of dead-end negative emotions. You may often have negative thoughts or ruminations about someone or something that triggered your anger. You may be critical or judging yourself and others. You may have a frustration that you would like to express to someone but hide and suppress your true thoughts or feelings when communicating with them.
Physical signals
They are different for everyone, but examples could include the feeling of pressure in the chest, blood pounding in the veins, overheating, heart pounding, or interrupted sleep.
What usually happens during an anger management session?
During anger management coaching sessions and programs, the intention is to help you recognise and understand your feelings and make you aware that expressing anger in a healthier way brings you a great benefit. It will be useful also to identify the reason for your anger and the resources to help you manage it, for example strategies to calm down when you feel the onset of anger. These programs can also uncover other issues that can reinforce anger, for example stress, anxiety and shame. Recognising these issues gives you a chance to work on them, which is critical to finding a lasting solution to managing anger.
The purpose of anger management coaching and anger management programs is to help you find a permanent remedy for your anger.
This can include:
- Identify the triggers of your anger and implement strategies to manage them, including affirming yourself more positively and proactively.
- Embrace fundamental skills to apply in situations that could potentially trigger your anger.
- Noticing when your ability to think clearly decreases and how to recognize the symptoms will allow you to increase your logic and common sense.
- Putting in place self-soothing strategies to calm yourself down so you don’t get sabotaged by your feelings
- Understand your feelings and express them clearly without blame.
- Know your wants and needs, and express them very clearly, without blame
- Identify solutions to solve problems creatively and manage crises more effectively
- Learn not to take things personally
- Expressing your vulnerability without feeling threatened
- Become more emotionally resilient by accepting what makes you who you are and what drives you to do the things you do
- Recognise that there are many creative solutions to problem solving, especially when it comes to anger
- Learn to communicate for the best and most effective results
The benefits of anger management
Managing your anger in a healthy way can change your life. Here are some of the positives
- No longer find yourself controlled by anger in the face of challenges
- Understanding the difference between assertiveness, aggression and passive aggression, and choosing to respond to situations appropriately
- Express your feelings and needs in a way that is listened to and taken seriously
- When you learn to manage your feelings better, your self-esteem will also increase, you will feel happier and more relaxed
- You will be more open to others, because you will no longer be intimidated by your anger
- You will be happier
A final lesson is that anger actually has many positive attributes and can even be beneficial to relationships if expressed correctly.
